"May the Peace and Blessings of Allah be Upon You"
Praise
be to Allaah, we seek His help and His forgiveness. We seek refuge with
Allaah from the evil of our own souls and from our bad deeds.
Whomsoever Allaah guides will never be led astray, and whomsoever Allaah
leaves astray, no one can guide. I bear witness that there is no god
but Allaah, and I bear witness that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger.
Bismillah Walhamdulillah Was Salaatu Was Salaam 'ala Rasulillah
As-Salaam Alaikum Wa-Rahmatullahi Wa-Barakatuhu
| Some Verdicts Pertaining to Supplications |
Usamah bin Zaid
(May Allah be pleased with them) reported: The Messenger of
Allah (PBUH) said, "He who is favoured by
another and says to his benefactor: `Jazak-Allah khairan (may
Allah reward you well) indeed praised (the benefactor)
satisfactorily."[At-Tirmidhi].
Commentary:
If one is unable to return
someone's kindness with kindness, he should say, "Jazak-Allahu
khairan (may Allah reward you well)." This means: "I am unable
to reciprocate your kindness. May Allah grant you the best
reward for it." Obviously there is no match for the reward
that one gets from Allah. For this reason the Prophet (PBUH)
said that it was the best of the praise for a
benefactor.
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1. Above All, She Wants Your Love
When a wife shows her husband less respect, he in turn shows her less love.
And when a husband shows his wife less love, she in turn shows him less respect.
And the vicious cycle repeats itself.
Stop this prophecy before it becomes self-fulfilling. Show love to your wife. Thats what she wants. Love her despite her flaws and quirks.
And when a husband shows his wife less love, she in turn shows him less respect.
And the vicious cycle repeats itself.
Stop this prophecy before it becomes self-fulfilling. Show love to your wife. Thats what she wants. Love her despite her flaws and quirks.
And Inshallah, she’ll respect you despite your flaws and quirks.
2. She is Bored
Its the same thing every day. Week in and week out.
Not only is she bored but she is also tired. She has to care for the
kids and run the household and then pamper you.
Just thinking about doing that every day makes me want to crawl under
my covers and hide. I can imagine how the average Muslim housewife must
feel.
And lets not forget about working woman. Many Muslim women have to work a full time job as well as hold a house down.
So brothers, I implore you, make your wife feel special.
Give her a break.
Take her out sometimes. Surprise her with a surprise meal. Bring her favorite desert home.
Just do something every now and then to break the monotony.
3. She Wants to Be Complimented
Appreciation. Everybody wants it. No one wants to
feel as if the hard work they do goes unnoticed or even worse, it taken
for granted.
Your wife does
not have to clean your dirty clothes. And she does not have to cook your
meals. But she does. And she does that on top of all the other things
in her life:
Working or going to school.
Caring for the kids.
Striving to be a better Muslimah.
Caring for the kids.
Striving to be a better Muslimah.
Show your wife that you appreciate and are thankful for the things she does to maintain you and your family.
A simple “thank you” is a good start.
4. She is Insanely Jealous
There is a reason most women dont care for polygamy.
Be very careful how you talk about other women around your wife.
Dont ever compare your wife to another woman.
Dont compare her to some female movie star.
Dont compare her to your mother.
Dont compare her to your mother.
Never, ever compare her to your ex-wife (or other wife!)
She wants to know and believe that she is the center of your universe. So make her feel that way.
Even the Prophets (pbuh) wives got jealous. Aisha
(RA) even got jealous of Khadijah (RA) even though she had already died
several years before.
5. She Wants You to Help Her Become A Better Muslimah
Your wife desires and wants you to be her leader. And what better way
to lead her than to be show her how to be a better Muslimah?
But you cant show her how to become better if you’re not that great
either.
Therefore, you have to upgrade your Iman.
You have to improve
yourself and then pass it on to her in a gentle, respectful way.
6. She Does not Like to Nag, But Sometimes You Make It Hard
Its a common myth that women like to nag their husbands. Thats not entirely true.
Yes, there are some people (men and women) whom you can never please.
No matter what you do, they will always find fault in something.
Let us be
reminded of the following hadith:
Narrated Ibn Abbas: The Prophet said: “I was shown the Hell-fire and
that the majority of its dwellers were women who were ungrateful.” It
was asked, “Do they disbelieve in Allah?” (or are they ungrateful to
Allah?) He replied, “They are ungrateful to their husbands and are
ungrateful for the favors and the good (charitable deeds) done to them.
If you have always been good (benevolent) to one of them and then she
sees something in you (not of her liking), she will say, ‘I have never
received any good from you.”
Sahih Bukhari
So, yes sisters should be careful about denigrating the things your husband does for you.
But very often, you Brother, make it hard for her to hold your tongue.
Perhaps you are always finding fault with her and she looks for things in your character to get even.
Perhaps you are not working (or not working hard enough) and she has to work to take up some slack.
Perhaps you are just not that great of a guy.
Once again, upgrade yourself and give her less reasons to complain and nag.
7. More Than Anything, She Wants a Stable,
Happy Relationship With You
Women dont get married just because they think its gonna be fun.
They get married because they want a happy family life and they believe you are gonna give it to them.
Outside of her religious duties, thats the most important thing in a
Muslim womans life. Raising a happy, stable, Muslim family.
The funny thing is, its very easy for you to give that to her.
Stop acting like a jerk. Be a good husband to her. Be kind. Show her you love her.
Dont threaten her with divorce or taking a second wife. But using them as threats is inappropriate and
detrimental to your marriage.
Trust in Allah, watch out for the tricks of Shaytan, and be patient with
her. Theres nothing Shaytan would love more than to destroy your
marriage.
See? That isnt all that hard, now is it ?
See? That isnt all that hard, now is it ?
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